Perceptions are a Difficult Concept
September 13, 2022
One of the most difficult concepts for some people to grasp while they are recovering themselves is what role perception plays in our lives. It is not difficult to know that our perceptions color everything. The hard part is really knowing that we don't know how others perceive things at all.
Every little thing that has happened in my life has made me look at the world in a certain way. As that relates to myself and my sister, even though there are only 11 months separating us, we don't see the world in the same way at all. Life is a completely different experience for each of us. This is what moves me to say things like "There is no human experience, there is mine and there is yours."
Of course, we can use shorthand to ease communication and say "yes this set of experiences is some standard," but as I have stressed before, there is no standard. What I experience and what you experience have nothing to do with one another, even if it seems like we are having the experience together. The more I can remember that the easier life is.
Every conflict we encounter consists of differing perceptions. If we do the work to unravel ours, and trust others are doing the same, then conflicts can dissipate quickly, because no one will try to convince others of anything. If there happens to be an aggressor and a victim, each one is perceiving their feelings and actions completely differently. It is not one's responsibility to understand the other, but that both understand why they perceived what they experienced. In that way, they will both understand themselves better and become aware of their own bias when it comes to interacting with others.
If you would like to learn more about how you can callenge your perceptions and find more joy in your life, then you are ready to recover yourself. Respond to this email and let's set up a time to talk further.