You were not taught what you learned
The quote that I am using this week is one that I have to remind clients and friends of all the time. All too often my clients want to find comfort in their discomfort by allowing themselves to be the victim of having been taught how to handle a situation. However, we are not taught how to handle situations, but we learn how to handle them. This is easy to see as two children witnessing the same family dynamic, will learn different things from the same "lesson." (I am using the word lesson here as a reference to perceiving having been taught from it)
We are learning all of the time, most of the time, and most of what we have learned in our lives has no teacher behind it. We learn by observing, feeling, exploring, and acting. You may find yourself in a biology class where you learn that getting good grades is rewarded with attention, however, everything you were explicitly taught about biology was never really learned.
If you were to look back on your life and explore those things you've learned, in which you previously associated with having been taught, hos does that change the way you perceive those lessons? How does looking at it differently alter the power you feel about being able to change the lesson?